Comments on: Advice 4 Women: How to NOT Get a “Deserved” Raping http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/2008/10/25/advice-4-women-how-to-not-get-a-deserved-raping/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=advice-4-women-how-to-not-get-a-deserved-raping Deciphering the Enigma that is Life Wed, 03 Mar 2010 17:49:45 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Ellen http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/2008/10/25/advice-4-women-how-to-not-get-a-deserved-raping/comment-page-4/#comment-600 Ellen Tue, 02 Mar 2010 23:03:06 +0000 http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/?p=36#comment-600 I dove into this article with the intention of becoming livid. As a self-proclaimed feminist, I am disgusted when rape is ever claimed to be the fault of the victim. However-- Aaron makes two excellent points: 1) while coming onto a guy may not put a girl at fault for being raped, it can still be very dangerous. It is always wise to exercise caution, especially around strangers. 2) taunting a person sexually is rather mean-spirited. I dove into this article with the intention of becoming livid. As a self-proclaimed feminist, I am disgusted when rape is ever claimed to be the fault of the victim. However– Aaron makes two excellent points: 1) while coming onto a guy may not put a girl at fault for being raped, it can still be very dangerous. It is always wise to exercise caution, especially around strangers. 2) taunting a person sexually is rather mean-spirited.

]]> By: Marty http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/2008/10/25/advice-4-women-how-to-not-get-a-deserved-raping/comment-page-4/#comment-597 Marty Mon, 01 Mar 2010 02:11:42 +0000 http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/?p=36#comment-597 Dude, this was the ballsiest article i have read. And by that, I mean, it takes balls to write this kind of bullshit. The world needs less people like you, and more smart and empathic people. Have you ever heard the term "junk of society"? Well, you're it. I would knock your fucking lights out. Dude, this was the ballsiest article i have read. And by that, I mean, it takes balls to write this kind of bullshit. The world needs less people like you, and more smart and empathic people.
Have you ever heard the term “junk of society”? Well, you’re it.
I would knock your fucking lights out.

]]> By: abgirl http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/2008/10/25/advice-4-women-how-to-not-get-a-deserved-raping/comment-page-3/#comment-451 abgirl Sat, 06 Jun 2009 00:08:26 +0000 http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/?p=36#comment-451 If men want to act like they're completely irrational beings unable to act in any way contrary to their penises, perhaps that's how we should treat them. If men want to act like they’re completely irrational beings unable to act in any way contrary to their penises, perhaps that’s how we should treat them.

]]> By: J,L. http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/2008/10/25/advice-4-women-how-to-not-get-a-deserved-raping/comment-page-3/#comment-447 J,L. Wed, 27 May 2009 09:14:55 +0000 http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/?p=36#comment-447 "Hmm… I see some of you ladies may still not get it. How about this: doing these sorts of things to a guy is akin to finding out about a sale at your favorite shopping store. If the place advertised all week long that they’d be having a midnight sale where everything in the store was going to be 50% off, and all during the week they assured you of getting such a great deal." By the way, this was probably the most offensive thing in your article. Not only are you comparing women to goods in a store, but you assume your female readers won't understand you unless you liken your situation to a stereotypically female activity like shopping. How would you like me to condescend to you in such a manner using analogies about watermelon and fried chicken? “Hmm… I see some of you ladies may still not get it. How about this: doing these sorts of things to a guy is akin to finding out about a sale at your favorite shopping store. If the place advertised all week long that they’d be having a midnight sale where everything in the store was going to be 50% off, and all during the week they assured you of getting such a great deal.”

By the way, this was probably the most offensive thing in your article. Not only are you comparing women to goods in a store, but you assume your female readers won’t understand you unless you liken your situation to a stereotypically female activity like shopping. How would you like me to condescend to you in such a manner using analogies about watermelon and fried chicken?

]]> By: J,L. http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/2008/10/25/advice-4-women-how-to-not-get-a-deserved-raping/comment-page-3/#comment-446 J,L. Wed, 27 May 2009 09:01:11 +0000 http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/?p=36#comment-446 You know darling, I do empathize with your frustration over that young lady. I had a similar thing happen to me with a girl a while back. A bunch of friends and I decided to go to a gay bar together one weekend because it seemed silly that I was a lesbian and had never been. However, one of my very attractive friends (who knew I was attracted to her, btw) kept asking me to dance with her. I really had no problem with this, except that while we were dancing she kept grinding against me, wrapping her arms around me, touching me. Considering the fact that she'd insisted she was straight, these were all very confusing signals she was sending me. Whenever I commented on her style of dancing, she would say, "I just like dancing!" never mind the fact that she wasn't dancing that way with anyone else. Anyways, I talked to one of her ex-boyfriends about all this and it turned out she was so deep in the closet she was finding Narnia. She'd taken advantage of the fact that she was at a gay bar with her lesbian friend to express a part of her sexuality that she had to keep suppressed. I suppose what I'm saying is girls have to keep their sexuality on the downlow all the time. So is it any surprise that a girl is going to take advantage of an opportunity like a date or a dance club to act sexy? Yes, they are well aware how excited men get about it, but why should that stop her? Can't a woman express her sexuality without wanting sex or worrying about getting raped? Should my friend have worried about me raping her when she was grinding on me at the club? You know darling, I do empathize with your frustration over that young lady. I had a similar thing happen to me with a girl a while back. A bunch of friends and I decided to go to a gay bar together one weekend because it seemed silly that I was a lesbian and had never been. However, one of my very attractive friends (who knew I was attracted to her, btw) kept asking me to dance with her. I really had no problem with this, except that while we were dancing she kept grinding against me, wrapping her arms around me, touching me. Considering the fact that she’d insisted she was straight, these were all very confusing signals she was sending me. Whenever I commented on her style of dancing, she would say, “I just like dancing!” never mind the fact that she wasn’t dancing that way with anyone else. Anyways, I talked to one of her ex-boyfriends about all this and it turned out she was so deep in the closet she was finding Narnia. She’d taken advantage of the fact that she was at a gay bar with her lesbian friend to express a part of her sexuality that she had to keep suppressed.

I suppose what I’m saying is girls have to keep their sexuality on the downlow all the time. So is it any surprise that a girl is going to take advantage of an opportunity like a date or a dance club to act sexy? Yes, they are well aware how excited men get about it, but why should that stop her? Can’t a woman express her sexuality without wanting sex or worrying about getting raped? Should my friend have worried about me raping her when she was grinding on me at the club?

]]> By: Aviva http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/2008/10/25/advice-4-women-how-to-not-get-a-deserved-raping/comment-page-3/#comment-435 Aviva Sat, 23 May 2009 01:00:15 +0000 http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/?p=36#comment-435 Perhaps this girl did what is socially accepted as acting like she "wanted it." And then she didn't, in fact, "want it." Well, I dated someone once who I thought acted like he wanted a relationship, and then he didn't. People deceive each other and/or misunderstand each other all the time. It isn't a strictly female phenomenon like this article and some of the comments following it suggest. Going along with the dating comparison: a guy has a right to talk to a woman, then decide he isn't interested and not ask for her number. He also has the right to go on a first date and then not on a second. Women have this right as well. So why should we not have the right to have the beginning of a sexual relationship, (if that is in fact what this dancing was, as was suggested in the article) and then decide we don't want to pursue it further? Perhaps this girl did what is socially accepted as acting like she “wanted it.” And then she didn’t, in fact, “want it.”

Well, I dated someone once who I thought acted like he wanted a relationship, and then he didn’t.

People deceive each other and/or misunderstand each other all the time. It isn’t a strictly female phenomenon like this article and some of the comments following it suggest.

Going along with the dating comparison: a guy has a right to talk to a woman, then decide he isn’t interested and not ask for her number. He also has the right to go on a first date and then not on a second. Women have this right as well.

So why should we not have the right to have the beginning of a sexual relationship, (if that is in fact what this dancing was, as was suggested in the article) and then decide we don’t want to pursue it further?

]]> By: A guy http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/2008/10/25/advice-4-women-how-to-not-get-a-deserved-raping/comment-page-3/#comment-431 A guy Fri, 22 May 2009 01:31:18 +0000 http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/?p=36#comment-431 I think most of the comments here are completely of base. In the most basic of concepts, he clearly says he does not condone rape, and that being a flirt/tease is more likely to attract more guys, one of whom may be a rapist. Some of the comparisons are crude, and many people are angry because this is a horrible thing that happens a lot but never should, but the fact i s guys do think that a girl is at least a little interested in him if she is dancing with him. This might be because many girls will not dance with any guy, but only guys they are physically attracted to. So it would seem logical that a girl who asks you to dance is interested in you, not as far as to already want to have sex, but maybe kiss, or exchange numbers. The fact is many girls these days dress very scantily and appear to be, for lack of a better word, sluts. I hate how this is almost the norm for young women today. Also if a girl decides to dress like this it is completely absurd if she complains when guys stare or look at her. If you do not want someone to look at your chest don't show it off. If I'm outside in the park or anywhere and I take my shirt off I want girls to check me out. The more the merrier. I think most of the comments here are completely of base. In the most basic of concepts, he clearly says he does not condone rape, and that being a flirt/tease is more likely to attract more guys, one of whom may be a rapist. Some of the comparisons are crude, and many people are angry because this is a horrible thing that happens a lot but never should, but the fact i s guys do think that a girl is at least a little interested in him if she is dancing with him. This might be because many girls will not dance with any guy, but only guys they are physically attracted to. So it would seem logical that a girl who asks you to dance is interested in you, not as far as to already want to have sex, but maybe kiss, or exchange numbers. The fact is many girls these days dress very scantily and appear to be, for lack of a better word, sluts. I hate how this is almost the norm for young women today. Also if a girl decides to dress like this it is completely absurd if she complains when guys stare or look at her. If you do not want someone to look at your chest don’t show it off. If I’m outside in the park or anywhere and I take my shirt off I want girls to check me out. The more the merrier.

]]> By: Gregory A. Butler http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/2008/10/25/advice-4-women-how-to-not-get-a-deserved-raping/comment-page-3/#comment-397 Gregory A. Butler Mon, 20 Apr 2009 05:39:40 +0000 http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/?p=36#comment-397 Aaron - Others have told you, but let me repeat it - just because a woman dances with you does not entitle you to have sex with her! It's really that simple! You don't get to rape a woman just because your thing is hard! What if a gay guy found YOU attractive, and decided that YOU were turning HIM on? Would he have a right to sodomize YOU? Aaron -

Others have told you, but let me repeat it – just because a woman dances with you does not entitle you to have sex with her!

It’s really that simple!

You don’t get to rape a woman just because your thing is hard!

What if a gay guy found YOU attractive, and decided that YOU were turning HIM on?

Would he have a right to sodomize YOU?

]]> By: IndianGuy http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/2008/10/25/advice-4-women-how-to-not-get-a-deserved-raping/comment-page-3/#comment-389 IndianGuy Mon, 16 Mar 2009 22:52:36 +0000 http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/?p=36#comment-389 It should be "I used to think" in my previous comment. Sorry. It should be “I used to think” in my previous comment. Sorry.

]]> By: IndianGuy http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/2008/10/25/advice-4-women-how-to-not-get-a-deserved-raping/comment-page-3/#comment-388 IndianGuy Mon, 16 Mar 2009 22:47:53 +0000 http://emqtv.com/blog/uncommonsense/?p=36#comment-388 Excellent write up. And I like the name of your blog. It matches this content very well. Uncommon sense.. this kind of sense is really uncommon but I used to thought it is just "common sense." The fact that it is uncommon can be seen easily from most of the comments you have got. Dont loose heart. Keep writing dude :) Excellent write up. And I like the name of your blog. It matches this content very well. Uncommon sense.. this kind of sense is really uncommon but I used to thought it is just “common sense.” The fact that it is uncommon can be seen easily from most of the comments you have got. Dont loose heart. Keep writing dude :)

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