“Again, it’s an EXCUSE because, if she WAS in a bar and didn’t want to be hit on… but someone like Denzel (or some other famous guy she found attractive) walked in the bar, she’d be DYING for him to hit on her.”

How does the fact that she’d make an exception for a certain man make her rule null and void? You may refuse to go down on a girl but if it meant having sex with Angelina Jolie, you’d make an exception, wouldn’t you? I call bullshit on THAT!

Honestly, you sound like the kind of guy who only goes after Barbie doll type girls then complains that girls are too bitchy. If you’re only going after bitches, you’re going to pass up all the nice girls who come your way.

P.S. Some advice from me to you: if she looks like she just stepped out of a Playboy magazine, she’s probably going to be lacking in depth and personality.

BUT. In my experience, girls are FAR more likely to give a guy a go than guys are to give girls a go. How many times do you see a gorgeous girl with a not-quite-so-gorgeous guy? I see it all the time. But how many gorgeous guys do you see out with a not-so-gorgeous girl? It’s rare, you’ve got to admit. Either that, or she’s showing an awful lot of skin. I’ve heard a lot of women complain about being single but I’ve heard a lot of guys complain about it too. On the whole, I’ve seen women be more willing to try than guys. Just my two cents.

Also, people meet in all different kinds of places, and one cannot designate when the right moment would be to hit on her. If she doesn’t want to be hit on in a bar or club, where? Is a book store okay? (“No, no, you have to be quiet in a bookstore!”) Okay, how about church? (“You can’t do it there – it’s a place of worship, and you’re supposed to focus on GOD, not the hotties who go there?”) As you can see, a person could come up with a reason why NO place is a good place to hit on a girl… but it ultimately boils down to if she sees a guy wherever she is and thinks, “gee, I find him cute!”

All I’m saying is, girls should, every now and again, stop turning a guy away right off the bat and say, “eh, I’m not doing anything else – might as well go on ONE date with him.” Like you said, people’s motives aren’t always superficial – sometimes, a guy might ACTUALLY want to take a girl out and get to know her as opposed to trying to bed her right away.

People’s motivations are not always superficial.